Sunday, 11 November 2012

We will remember them


They shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old.
Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn.
At the going down of the sun and in the morning,
We will remember them.

Wednesday, 24 October 2012

Behind the Sash Calendar


I just stumbled across this little discover a few days ago. It is a new charity calendar in aid of the excellent Leather Archives & Museum in Chicago.

It features photos of 12 Leather and Bear titleholders from around the world, namely:
  • International Mr. Leather 2012/Mr. Michigan Leather 2012 Woody Woodruff  
  • Mr. 501 Eagle 2012 Ron Kautz
  • Mr. Missouri Leather 2012 Scott O'Brien
  • Mr. Washington State Leather 2011 James Dunagan
  • Mr. Bluegrass Leather 2011 Sam Clemons & Mr. Kentucky Bourbon Bear 2011 Aaron Huddleston
  • Mr. Code Florida 2012 Steve Hedrick
  • Mr. Chicago Leather 2012 Angel Velez & Raphael Ferreira
  • Mr. Minneapolis Eagle 2012 Derek Harley & Josh Cronan
  • Mr. Iowa Leather 2012 Jeremy Morris
  • Mr. North American Bear 2012 Jed Ryan
  • Mr. UK Leather 2012 Kilker Alcaraz
  • Mr. Sydney Leather 2012 Richard Savvy


I have a trip to New York coming up and so hope to pick up a copy to grace my new playroom wall! If you are from the UK let me know and I can pick one up for you too.

Thursday, 11 October 2012

Amsterdam Kink Academy


Unfortunately I can't make this, I am away then which is a real shame as I wanted to go to the Flogging and Bondate workshops. Hopefully next year!

Full details: Amsterdam Kink Academy

Tuesday, 9 October 2012

Intense CP - No Way Out


No Way Out Punishment is a British porn site, it specialises in hard, all-male Corporal Punishment (CP) and spanking. They spank, whip, cane, strap, paddle and flog our way through a lot of guys arses! Old young, slim, built - they have a lot to choose from.  If the thought of dominant males beating bare ass turns you on then you will love what we do.

This isn't any of that pretend BDSM porn crap! This is real men causing real pain with real screams ... definitely not for the faint of heart.

So I thought I'd introduce you to one of their latest clips, Steve isn't really my 'type' - too young for me, but I know there are a lot of guys who would love to see him getting his arse beaten.


Steve is only 18 years old and has been spending way too much money going out and drinking with his friends. London is an expensive city - he borrowed some money off his friends and now he can't afford to pay it back. There was nothing else for it - he decided he had to take it HARD for NO WAY OUT. I was only too pleased to help show Steve some hard discipline and I was delighted when I saw his ass - he has a great ass for punishment - young and smooth. I made him bend over and just grit his teeth as he presented it for us. I punished him hard with a variety of implements and loved watching his ass turn from a pale, blemish-free state to pink, to red and then to very red and very, very sore. This is a very harsh introduction to CP for this young lad. Belts and paddles hammered down on those ass cheeks until I felt he had learned his lesson. It was very humiliating for a straight guy too. I gave him something to bite down on while he took the punishment like a man - a paddle now has Steve's teeth marks set quite deeply into it.
As you can see from the scenes below Steve certainly takes a hard beating! I'm sure sitting down was a bit of an issue for the next few days!

Wednesday, 5 September 2012

Cable Locked Collars

Yesterdays post about the SM Apartments in Berlin closed with a picture of me wearing a new steel cable collar. The collar is feels amazing and is a fantastic original design! The one I am wearing came from the Recon store where they credit an American manufacturer with making them.

A bloody good find by their purchasing team!

Another awesome find was by a friend who found the website for Cable Locked in Denver, USA.

Four of the designs from Cable Locked

Founded only this year Cable Locked Designs is a part time business that makes Industrial Jewelry out of cable - all of them are designed to be locked on and are hand made to order.

It is an outstanding piece of design work, and I really hope they make a success of it - they deserve the recognition for the design and work. I personally love the blue collared lugs, and suspect I will be ordering that one before too long to go with my existing red one. Clearly not to be worn a the same time!

On the website you can order both uncoated cable and one with a clear vinyl coating. Personally I would recommend anyone looking at these for long term wear go for the vinyl coated on. Not only will the cable snag and pull on neck / chest hairs the very abrasive nature of the cable won't be good for the skin.

So if you are looking for a new original design of collar for your property or just to wear something unique check out the website! Shipping to the UK is also available from them.

Monday, 3 September 2012

SM Apartment Berlin


For quite a while now I have wanted to try hiring a dungeon space, or even an apartment with dungeon. Unfortunately some of the old favourites like the Black Tulip in Amsterdam closed, as did the RoB apartments there. London has a few dungeons available for the evening or by the hour, but there is something about going to stay somewhere for a few nights with its own playroom that really appealed.

A long time ago I found the SMApartments Berlin and really fancied them, and this past weekend I finally got to stay at the SM Suite with my husband. Berlin is now Europe's leather capital, Amsterdam lost that crown a few years back – it is now trying to get it back which is great to see!

Berlin is also home to the two RoB and two Hoist Basement apartments - but these don't appeal as much as the SM Apartments.And there is a very simple reason - the apartment space looks really nicely designed and styled. The RoB and Hoist ones are almost over styled to be hard sex environments. Yeah a good dirty play space is awesome, but I really like comfort and style. And the SM Apartments offer both of these.

We booked the SM Suite, and because of how flights worked we later added an extra night to the stay. The only down side was the arrival time - out flight landed about 10:00pm. We had excellent directions to give the Taxi driver and were met at at the apartment to pay the balance, be shown around, and of course to get the keys. Even if a little late – we didn't get in until 11:00pm, but this wasn't a problem.

The Suite is the largest of the three apartments available. If you really don't like Tom of Finland art you may not love the apartment - it is decorated with 14 of his iconinc drawings throughout the lounge, hallway and bedroom.


You walk into the apartment into a large airy lounge area - the rooms are very very tall giving a great feeling of space! The kitchen area and breakfast bar / dinning table is off the lounge. It has all the essentials - fridge freezer, toaster, microwave, kettle and Nespresso machine. There is also an electric hotplate should you need it. The fridge and kettle were about all we used, along with the dish washer.


The bedroom has a large king sized bed with plenty of drawers for storage, a hifi and wall mounted TV. The apartment also comes with it's own iPad and WiFi. A word of warning with the WiFi ... the walls of the apartment are very thick and the signal sometimes gets lost if you stray too far from the edroom – no wifi in the loo at times on my old 1st gen iPad.


The bedroom is where I think I would say I only had one complaint - lack of pillows on the bed. There were just two very thin pillows that offered no support. But we made use of the blankets there too boost them up and all was good.

The bedroom is where we also came across our first item of dungeon furniture - a Fetters Mk 1 Whipping Bench. A great classic bit of dungeon furniture!

And then the playroom ... the real reason everyone stays here!


A huge cage, sling stand, suspension rig, wall restraints, bondage table, gyno chair, tv & dvd player, russian gas mask, restraints, chains, ropes, leather sleepsack, rubber sleepsack, condoms, lube, pegs and a few other bits and pieces you will enjoy. I think some pictures say much more about the space, I have to add thought that the lighting was awesome!






We had a great time at the apartment and really enjoyed exploring Berlin as a city. The apartment is very well location for the U-Bahn, just ten minutes walk away if that. One of my fave bars visited was Prinzknecht just around the corner. Walking in I felt like I'd been transported to San Francisco, it felt very American to me in its styling and service. None of which is a bad thing - very different, a great thing and a great bar.

Berlin is an amazing city and I will be making some more posts about the shops in the area. I can't wait to go back!

Sunday, 8 July 2012

Lube Review: FistPowder

The 'ultimate' lube is something make people continue to look for. Different lubes are more suited to different activities, for most people who just want a good fuck something like Liquid Silk or ID Lube works well. But for those who like a little more - bigger toys, bigger dicks, more fingers, or a fist or two the requirements change. It needs to stay slick, give a good slide with a slight grip so toys don't fly out of your hand - you could get someones eye out with a flying butt plug if your not careful.

Most hole players have their own preferences, popular ones being Crisco / Trex (much cheaper to get hold of in the uk) or often J-Lube with Aqueous Cream.

I must admit I've never been a huge J-Lube fan - it's messy. Very messy! It's going to be good for fisting - this stuff is designed for vets to shove their arms up cows!! But it is very stringy which means you end up in a mess of lube and if you're not careful of your flooring also flying across the dungeon / bedroom! The other problem you have with J-Lube is the clean up ... just washing with soap and water doesn't work, it just gets super slippy and doesn't really clear up. I'm sure many a J-Lube virgin has freaked a little bit at this point, no you need to keep a tub of table salt in the bathroom cupboard to break it down.

Several years ago there was an amazing lube in on the market - K-Lube. This was very popular as a regular lube and for fisting, they did some nice warming / tingling / relaxing mixes too. And they also sold it in mix your own powder form and it cleaned up with soap and water- a big advantage. But then the owners of the company had some personal nightmares and had to close the company it was sorely lost.

But 2012 the world of lube is changing! K-Lube powder is back (original formula apparently) and then  two new players on the market! The first is from a French company called FistPowder, and the second from a UK based company but developed in Germany - X-Lube.


And so, to the lube! I have so far only tried FistPowder a few times, so this is a first impressions view.

The powder comes in a rather compact tube / bottle, and the design of the package follows the website which I think looks awesome. Something to be aware of is not to remove the outer label from the bottle, just by twisting the top you break the seal - the label has on it a small marker line at the very top of the lid. This is used for measuring the amount of powder required to make up 500ml of lube. The bottle has a secure flip top so don't worry about spillages in your toy bag.

The problem with all these powder lubes is the mixing - finding the best way of doing it. I think I've found a good way of making it easy! I use a 700ml Maximusle Protein Drink Shaker. 500ml of warm water (this has measurements on the side), and a 5g measure of powder. Put the lid on - make sure its sealed and shake, shake shake. Then leave for five minutes and shake shake shake again! You are then left with a bottle of lube!

The resulting gel is latex safe - so ok to use with condoms and gloves, is colourless, odourless and apparently doesn't stain! The first thing I noticed - no stringy bits and it  pours really well and is easy to control both the amount you want and where it goes!

The slip is good, really nice natural slide to it but its not like liquid teflon! You can pick up a butt plug or dildo and actually keep hold of it! And I think that is a critical part of a lube, something that J-Lube misses out on.

I enjoyed it, it worked well, and found it lasted well without drying out too quickly. I will definitely continue to use it, and look forward to trying different mixes of powder to water.

It's a great lube to help whatever your your shoving up an arse get in and come out again easily!

I think there is something that they should look at doing - releasing the product in 5g sachets. To 'try out' the product costs over £25.00 for one tube with delivery, a bit steep to see how you get on with a product. So being able to request a single sample would be helpful, and also selling say packs of 10 x 5g sachets makes for great travel lube! You take a sachet, on the way you pick up a 500ml bottle of water. Tip in sachet, shake and fist! I can hear the the Jingle now - do the shake n fist ...

As a final word they really need to get the malware warning on their website sorted! Getting a bit annoying now and will be putting people off looking at it. I know they are trying to get it sorted though.

Friday, 6 July 2012

Canal Pride - Join the Mister B Boat!


Wish we could be there this year - hope everyone who goes has a fantabuloso time!

Friday, 15 June 2012

Dinner Date & Workout with Ben Cohen


Ben Cohen ... love him. And the work he is doing with the Stand Up Foundation is amazing.

And it turns out he's available for rent ... well kinda. He's doing a deal with the W Chicago in aid of the foundation, a workout, dinner and brunch with him all for a $10,000 donation. Sounds a bargain to me!

Check out the details here.

Thursday, 7 June 2012

Size does matter at Mister B

Do you hate it when you get rejected for being too small? Well not at Mister B, come visit our shop and get between 30% and 70% discount on selected small and extra small sizes! Size does matter! The smaller the better.


I am of course hoping that for those of us who are L and XL don't have to add extra to the cost of our items!

Woof: All Tied Up

After all the serious talk, sometimes its just good to look at some pictures of boys all tied up!







Dick Wadd... Bareback Porn

I'm seeing a lot of discussion about bareback porn, the bareback brotherhood and related issues. I woke up this morning and my first thought was an old issue of the excellent Instigator magazine. Issue 7 dealt a lot with bareback stuff, and had a great interview with Dick Wadd ... one of the leaders in bb porn.

It is well worth a read! But I wanted to share an excerpt here that I think highlights the issues very well that we are a community are facing:
Isn't there a responsibility to the younger members of the tribe who are beginning to explore kink?
I feel that we older members of the tribe have a responsibility to educate younger members and all initiates, not only about sexual practice, but about the potential ramifications of particular practices both physically and psychologically. There were three young HIV- men in my past who assumed that, because of my work, i am HIV+ and who wanted to take my charged load. I invited them [seperately] to my playroom, lit the candles, put on my best music, set the scene, tossed them in the sling, bored into their eyes with mine right before penetration, then grabbed them by their harnesses, shook them, slapped their faces and screamed, "What the fuck are you thinking?" In each case, a dear friend with physically visible manifestations of afvacned HIV was waiting nearby and, together, we just talked (more like scared) some sense into these guys.

That's a different approach, I'd say...
Though I truly believe that life is about choices and consequences, I think the trouble with "safer sex education" is that there is a disconnection between unsafe sex and its ramifications ... Newbies don't get to see the truly heinous face of AIDS or talk openly with guys who haven't had a solid bowel movement for years, suffer from lipodystrophy, lipoatrophy, chronic fatigue, and other side-effects. They only see the chiseled bodies and features of men in HIV drug ads, which are not representative of the true face of AIDS.

What does safer sex mean to you?
I believe that bareback topping (for circumcised men) is relatively safe and on a par with oral sex as far as safety is concerned. Bareback bottoming, fisting without gloves, and bloodsports are things that I personally steer away from. I would also ask my partner about any [illicit] drug use and his hepatitus status before consuming piss, as Hep A can be passed through urine.
Too many people have become immune to the safer sex message, they think that with all the drugs around they'll be fine and that HIV can be managed. But we also need to remember about all the other STI's out there - as Dick points out, its about all body fluids not just spunk!

Wednesday, 6 June 2012

#BBBH

#BBBH is a twitter hash tag co-started by Mark Bentson for the 'Bareback Brotherhood'. I've never really paid to much attention to it - bareback isn't my bag, don't really understand it nor require it. It's a choice people make, actually I'm not sure choice is the right phrase. Risk assessment may be better.

Many BB's often say "I could get hit by a bus tomorrow", and have looked at the risk of catching HIV, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Herpes Simplex Virus-2, Human Papillomavirus, Syphilis. They know that  untreated syphilis can damage the brain, cardiovascular system and many organs in the body. And that having it increases the danger of being infected with HIV/AIDS at least two- to five-fold.

They have decided they are happy with the risks and consequences of those risks. I've done the same thing, I really enjoy a good cigar! I know the problems smoking can cause, and I've read up on it and because of that I have a very limited number of cigars a year. They really are my true guilty pleasure. But some would brand me immoral and not looking after my health by this action.

For me sex should be safer sex, and I use a condom. I don't judge those who prefer not to - I just won't fuck them. And that's fine, there are plenty of cocks and asses around that I can play with should I choose to.

As I say I've never really paid too much attention to the existence of the Brotherhood, other then as a way of identifying those who fuck raw. But this evening I read a great blog post by Bi-Polar Bear ... 'What's up with the Bareback Brotherhood?'

In it Mark Bentson is quoted as saying
…I do love a good debate when I can find someone with an open enough mind in which to discuss barebacking rationally...
Yes I think it can be discussed openly and rationally. Provided each side hasn't already judged the other side's views, and is prepared to listen.

For a lot of people, Mark included, the path to making a decision to fuck bareback doesn't start with a horny fantasy or desire to do something 'taboo' it starts much simpler then that.

A dislike of condoms, or being unable to fuck while wearing one. The debate needs to start with the reasons, for some it is about the taboo, for others its the practicalities of it. And these need to be discussed and addressed before the moral issues.

But my concern isn't about barebacking, it is about these kind of actions and attitudes:
Truth is at least once a month, I slip off a condom or use one with a hole in it. Stealthing is what I do.
One of my biggest issues in sex, kinky play and relationships is respect. Both giving it and expecting it - this does neither of those. And most importantly ... this is a criminal act! And people have been jailed for up to ten years for criminal transmission. I know proof and conviction is hard, but while BB sex has risks, is this a risk really worth taking?

I was once privilege to a debate by the Archbishop of Canterbury Dr Rowan Williams and the atheist writer Philip Pullman. Both have very strong and polar opposite points of view on the same issue, but both also had complete respect for the other and it was a fascinating debate.

For a debate to happen both sides have to respect each other - admissions such as these make that harder. There are many bareback bloggers who I do respect out there, Josh Landale from Confessions of a Bareback Sauna Slut is one of them. Indeed I am a regular reader of both his blog and twitter feed. And was fascinated about how he reacted to hearing he had become HIV+ and also the attitude of others towards him because he wrote about it.

Bareback sex isn't going to go away. And both sides shouting from the extremes won't help, and judgemental campaigns won't make the issue go away. Over time we will come to understand each other, and to allow others to make their own choices and we must respect each other for that and abide by their decisions.

Tuesday, 5 June 2012

Your views on Leather Titles

Woody Woodruff - International Mr Leather 2012

The Leather Identity Project have an interesting survey running at present on people's views of the Title concept. Are they valid, what do they mean to people, and how are they supported. I'm currently working on a blog post about it at the moment and my views on them.

If you can spare two minutes please complete the survey 'Where do you stand on Leather titles?'

Bingham Cup 2012


The 2012 Bingham Cup took place in Manchester, UK, between 1st and 3rd June 2012. It is the world championship of gay and inclusive rugby teams and is one of the largest men’s 15-aside rugby union tournament in the sporting calendar outside of the IRB Rugby World Cup. Manchester 2012 was the sixth Bingham Cup and is officially sponsored by the Rugby Football Union.

It was first held in 2002 in San Francisco and is named after Mark Bingham a former University of California -- Berkeley rugby star. He was among the passengers who prevented Flight 93 from crashing into Washington in the September 11 attacks in 2001.

Congratulations to the Sydney Convicts on winning the 2012 tournament, and congratulations to the Village Spartans for putting on an amazing weekend!

What you into?

We've all had the question on Recon, Scruff, Grindr or Gaydar (though I never use the latter myself). Not the most original of openers, but I guess it get direct tot he point. I was just looking down my Tumblr feed. And this is the current display at the top for all the latest images I've posted. I think this would pretty much cover all of my favourite / biggest fetishes and things I enjoy doing.

So in future, this can be my answer.

#whatyouinto

New Leather New Pics

Before heading off to CLAW I wanted to buy myself a new leather waistcoat / vest (for the yanks) but fate conspired against me and we didn't get to the store I wanted to get it from in time. Not that I didn't try other places, Expectations were too small, RoB & Mister B didn't suit my body shape - more for those with bigger pecs rather then those of us with bigger bellies. And bigger wallets.

But last week I was down in London and was able to get to Fetish Freak within The Hoist. And with a little help from Twitter I was provided with instructions on how to find it this time. If you rely on Google Maps and the postcode you end up in completely the wrong part of Vauxhall as I discovered last time.

This weekend just gone was also Birmingham Pride, maybe I'm just becoming a jaded old queen but in my days Pride was a celebration of the LGBT community. This year it seemed to be about 80% straight, mostly from the local council estates wanting a free party but refusing to actually support any of the bars or companies in case a gay actually talks to them. But this isn't a rant about Pride!

New waistcoat in hand I got ready for the days drinking and socialising, and my husband got these pics of me just before we left. Just snaps with an iPhone, I was very pleased with them.







Friday, 1 June 2012

Shopping: 15% Off Bleachers & Co


The Queen is having a bit of a right royal knee's up this weekend to celebrate ruling over us fo 60 bloody years! Lots of good stuff going on around the country and you'll see more Union Jacks around then you ever thought possible!

But there is also another reason to celebrate Bleachers & Co are one of the many companies offering a Jubilee Discount - 15% off everything across the store! So get your ass over to their online store, add some quality merchandise to your basket and check out with the code JUBILEE to claim your discount.

Rock on bitches! As I am sure Liz would say.

Tuesday, 29 May 2012

Woof: Muscle & Ink

So today I have returned from an awesome weekend in Benidorm, you may think Blackpool in the Sun and for part you'd be right. But it has an amazing gay scene that so few know about - I'm doing a blog post about that in the coming days.

On the flight out there was a welsh rugby club stag party, and while there we saw so many stag parties. And most seem to involve two things in the groups ... muscle and tattoo's! I wasn't objecting to either, and so here are some pics inspired by the weekend.







A personal fave above, and finally to finish off the something rugby themed.


Thursday, 24 May 2012

Woof: Baseball Cap





Tron, Batman & Storm Trooper Bike Leathers


I have always loved bikers and seeing guys in their leathers! Even now when a biker passes me in full leathers I'm always drawn to them. Ever since I can remember I've appreciated them. I'm not bothered about the bikes, I'd quite happily just have the gear to wear!

When Tron Legacy was released at the cinema there was a lot of excitement about the new suits - damned sexy creations! I'm sure many a nerd and perv lusted after owning one and indeed riding out in one.

Well now you can! UD Replica's have released an officially licensed Tron Rinza and Sam Flynn bike leathers suit!



But if you fancy something or someone else, how about a Batman or Captain America suit?


And then of course for the real sci-fi geeks - the all important Star Wars Stormtrooper kit!

Wednesday, 23 May 2012