Monday, 29 August 2011

Get the fuck out!

Nice idea maybe, and so easy to say for those of us who don't know what its like. Who have never been in the situation - and I consider myself very lucky to be in that position.

But for many many guys who are the victims of domestic violence it isn't that easy.

I'm not really a big fan of porn actor blogs, they are generally rather boring. But for some reason I was reading that of Spencer Reed last week and was very touched by a recent posting he made - The Damnage: Results of Gay Domestic Violence.

The photo above is what happened to him when his ex boyfriend attacked him for the last time (note last - this wasn't the only). And I am so impressed and pleased he has made this post public! For too fucking long male domestic violence victims (gay and straight) have had a huge stigma against them. The man is supposed to be all butch, and able to defend himself, and wouldn't stand for it. That is the difference of domestic violence - it isn't a random stranger you want to hit back at. This is being done to you by someone you love and you thought loved you.

So if you are in a violent relationship please protect yourself and do what you need to get out of there! Pick up the phone and call a local support organisation, suicide line, gay switchboard / organisation - whoever it is try to take that first step! Get yourself some support - even if its just someone at the end of a phone!!

Remember when you were a kid and you thought you were the only gay in your school, town, city, country or the world? You know what you weren't - just as you aren't the only one having the crap beaten out of you by someone you love. There is help!

And if you suspect someone is in an abusive relationship then please reach out - however you can send that lifeline! You may well save someone's life!!

UK: 0300 330 0630 - London Lesbian & Gay Switchboard

UK: 08457 90 90 90 - The Samaritans

ROI: 1850 60 90 90 - The Samaritans

Australia: 13 11 14 - Lifeline (24 hour Crisis Hotline)

USA: 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233) - National Domestic Violence Hotline